Patterns of Trust

I’m almost okay with people avoiding personal contact with others when their idea of trust is frayed. We’re told it is wise to be frugal with our trust, and most of us are, giving some of the most misinformed reasoning. Granted, that reasoning is birthed from a shitload of uncomfortable and hurtful experiences, and with each experience, the windows to our hearts get smaller and smaller. Because we routinely push people away with our arduous obstacles for consideration of our trust, sometimes we think we’re being open, when in fact we are not. It makes me wonder if locking our heart so tightly is even worth it.

If we say trusting easily is stupid, than it will be. We contemplate and accept any and every negative outcome to every situation. We don’t imagine the best case scenario, because we have compiled so many past bad experiences in our heads, that to fathom anything positive is an unattainable fantasy. It is crazy and goes against this idea of happiness that we often boast we want. Many of us navigate all of our relationships this way, whether they be platonic or romantic. Our lips say one thing, but our actions and thoughts paint an entirely different picture. I will share with all of you something to take on your journeys, something we should already know, but we so easily forget: Your thoughts, do and will become your reality. What goes into our heads will come out. As long as we continue to flood the walls of our minds with garbage and mistruths about trust and the motives of people, than the reality is not far from fruition.

Perception is really just perception, however we make our perceptions, which are often weighed down with the toxicity of our erroneous opinions, reality. When we begin treating our perceptions as reality, that is surely what they will become, so perhaps the old saying is right after all. Besides, it is much more easy for us to be victims and cry foul as reasoning for our unwillingness to be open and trust. What's funny is, people have been protecting their hearts forever, promoting mind fuckery as an ingredient to establish anything worth the long haul. Our over protective inquisitiveness towards the good or bad intentions of people is not what builds trust. Sometimes we act like brats with our trust, when we think we’re brave hearts. You cannot acquire trust if you are unwilling to trust. This idea of building relationships with an open hand and a closed heart is a bit ass backwards if you think about it, but hey, we all want what we want.

I doubt many people would seriously consider trusting people at face value. People play games. People are manipulative. People are cruel. But that also means we all play games, are manipulative and cruel. As soon as we stop playing games and begin to trust, perhaps it will give other people the courage to do the same. Perhaps it’s time to start a new tradition, because is the old one really working that well anyway?